Ghosts

Dolly Alderton

  • First published 2020
  • 320 pages
  • English
Nina Dean, a successful food writer, enters her early thirties with a new apartment and a seemingly fulfilling life, yet finds herself navigating the complexities of modern womanhood. As her friends settle into marriage and motherhood, Nina embarks on the unpredictable journey of online dating, where she meets Max, a man who appears to offer the connection she seeks. However, when Max abruptly disappears without explanation, Nina is left to confront the bewildering experience of "ghosting." Beyond this sudden romantic void, Nina grapples with other forms of loss and change: the evolving dynamics of long-standing friendships, her mother's mid-life reinvention, and the slow, heartbreaking progression of her beloved father's dementia. This novel offers a whip-smart and tender exploration of relationships, identity, and the various "ghosts" that haunt us—from vanished lovers to fading memories and the shifting landscape of one's own life in an age of constant flux. It provides an insightful look at the challenges of finding self-acceptance and happiness amidst the pressures of contemporary life.
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The book received considerable praise for its highly relatable portrayal of a single woman navigating life in her thirties. Reviewers frequently highlighted the author's ability to expertly capture the nuances of modern dating, including the prevalent experience of ghosting, as well as the societal pressures faced by women regarding relationships and family. Many found the protagonist, Nina Dean, to be a compelling and authentic character, making her experiences with heartbreak and the challenges of friendship deeply affecting. The writing style was often described as clever, acutely observed, and compulsively readable, blending humor with moments of profound sadness and reflection. Additionally, the novel was commended for its moving and realistic depiction of a parent's illness and the impact of aging and loss on family dynamics, adding significant emotional depth to the narrative. Despite its strengths, several reviewers expressed reservations, particularly regarding the book's marketing as a romantic comedy, noting its often depressing and emotionally painful tone. Some found the plot to be slow-moving, meandering, or clunky, with various subplots that lacked cohesion or significant development. The protagonist, while relatable to many, was also described by some as unlikeable, judgmental, self-centered, or lacking sufficient growth throughout the story. Critics also pointed out certain elements they found unconvincing, such as unlikely occurrences, unrealistic character dynamics, or a perceived generic portrayal of millennial experiences. The depiction of mothers in the book was also a point of contention for some, who felt it was unflattering or caricatured, and the overall portrayal of men was seen by a few as overly negative. Ultimately, the book elicits a range of responses, proving to be a divisive read for some while deeply resonating with others. It is best described as a character-driven, slice-of-life novel that explores complex themes of identity, relationships, and loss within a contemporary setting. Readers who appreciate a realistic, often bittersweet, and emotionally rich narrative that tackles the challenges of modern adulthood, particularly for single women, are likely to find much to enjoy. It is recommended for those who seek a reflective and observant story with a blend of humor and poignant moments, rather than a lighthearted or traditionally romantic comedy, and who can appreciate a protagonist with perceived flaws and a less conventional narrative arc.

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This edition
Knopf, 2021
ISBN
9780593319857
Language
English
Original edition Originally published in 2020 · English · Fig Tree

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